Shopping, meetings, dinners… Do you consume more than you need on these dates? Beware, it can be a sign of a lack of affect and could lead you to be a compulsive buyer.
Overwhelmed by gifts
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The gifts to children are the ones we buy with more enthusiasm, but sometimes we saturate them and overwhelm them with such a quantity of toys that they can not control or make their own.
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Do we project old needs on them, without being able to discriminate how much is right for them? Do we try to cover with so much gift the guilt that we do not give them enough time?
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In addition to gifts, we consume food, drink, meetings with friends… We have chosen friends, with them we can talk, even protest what awaits us. With the family we have limits, especially when within it there are some other conflict.
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Cover needs
The fear of physical and emotional deprivation are the two main anxieties of the human being, according to the psychoanalyst Bruno Bettelheim. Thus, hunger and lack of love is what the child fears the most. The latter is represented for him as abandonment by parents.
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Family reunions reassure children because they represent that, in terms of abandonment, they do not have to be afraid: there will always be other people in the family, grandparents, uncles, cousins who will help them.
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The meetings that adults do with friends and family, meals, dinners, gifts… are also a way to try to meet the emotional needs and to alleviate the shortcomings we suffer during the year and thus make fewer purchases.
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Anxiety at a fixed date
Some dates remain engraved in the heart and therefore, although we do not remember them, we suffer, when they arrive, symptoms such as sadness, headache, anxiety, nightmares, irritability…
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THOSE WHO CAN NOT BE
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For example, Christmas makes us always think about the family, those who are and those who are missing. This time is full of conflicts that generate anxiety and that we try to calm by buying excessively.
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REALIZE THE DUEL
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The anniversary of the death of a loved one will be surrounded by a halo of sadness until there is a psychological elaboration called mourning.
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LOOK FOR YOURSELF
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If at this time you feel that you exceed your purchases and that you are too tired, it would be convenient to spend more time on yourself. Think about what people you are good at and talk to them. If there are undesirable elements in your family, avoid them. Defend yourself of what bothers you.
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Do you think you are a compulsive buyer because of anxiety or for some other reason?… Share it with your friends. ?
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